The Art of Asking Questions

There is beauty/art in asking questions.

Yes even bad questions.

I would like to share this because maybe you will learn too. When I was just a kid, I don’t ask questions much. Maybe because I’m like a sponge, I take everything good and bad and the very bad – personally. Maybe that’s why I grew up shy and aloof. I’m pretty scared of people most of the time.

 It is only now that I've started asking questions. Kind of shake my belief system. I know I’m not yet shaking it as hard as I would like to, because maybe if I’d do, the belief house would fall. And I wouldn't know what I’d be if that would happen. But in fairness I think that wouldn't be so scary. Confronting myself and my beliefs would be liberating I think. (That’s a comforting thought- that I actually think it would be liberating.)

I’ve got a lot of questions about confidence and why I react or behave the way I do to certain situations or people. It’s fun.

 The art of asking questions is fun.

Most especially if you know how to ask the right ones.

Here’s one page of my many questions (I use my notebook every time I come up with questions, that means I write it down) This is really hard to show but I’m sharing it because maybe, just maybe, there are people out there who is just like me, and reading this would liberate her/him the way it did me from my insular mindset. lol.

What is my limiting belief?

That I am inferior to people who are successful(people who have much confidence – they believe in their work and they know what they do)

Why do I feel inferior to people who are successful? To people who exude much confidence they seem to fly.

I feel inferior and little because I believe I can’t contribute a thing.

Because I want to please people, to show off, by being humble.

Inferiority cloaked in humility, nay, timidity to the point of acting dumb. Because I thought if people think poorly of me, when I fail they would not blame me much, because what would you expect from timid people? I make excuses already for my future imagined mistakes! When in fact it is unlikely to happen! My brilliant defense mechanism!

What should I do to correct this wrong belief? This horrible fear of the future mistakes I will make?

Be brave, be you. What if instead of owning your imagined future mistakes, you try owning and living your potential.

Start living to your potential, your true potential. And imagine that.

 Wow.

I ask those questions, not to myself but to God. And hearing those answers is like freedom.

Here is the most important thing I learned: It is good to ask yourself questions but it is even better to ask God those questions, It is good to talk to yourself but even better to talk to God. In him is Wisdom.

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths." Proverbs 3:5-6

You Can Ask Anything. Absolutely Anything!

 xxx

Things I’m grateful for today

1.  I'm grateful for my dad. He is getting old. And I need to be more patient with him; not the other way around. Don’t be so pabadlong. Remember that.

2.    I'm grateful for Cherry (tbg) music, one of the most inspiring people who top my list right now.

3.   I am grateful for you Abba dear, for not giving up, for all of us. Thank you.

Wrist Pain Solution; mouse speed

If you've been experiencing wrist pain due to your mouse. I have good news for you. I found a brilliant solution over the internet on how to solve that. Basically if you've noticed, if you move your mouse from the left to the right edge of your computer screen, it takes a lot of wrist movement to that. So the idea is to lessen that movement to stop the strain. To do that, we have to speed up the motion of our mouse. Ready? Here we go...

1. First step is to go to your control panel > Hardware and Sound > Mouse

That is currently my mouse speed's setting :)

2. Once your in the Mouse Properties, click the Pointer Options and in the Motion change the speed of the mouse from it's default setting to 2-4 notches up. And viola!

Notice how easy it is now to reach the far end side of your screen with little movement from your wrist.
I hope that helps!

Source: Steve Pavlina go visit his site; ill guarantee youll definitely learn something!

Things Im grateful for today:
1. Im grateful for my work and that i am working telecommute, which means i have total control over my time. Thank u Lord :)
2. Im grateful for my brothers chicks. haha. the sound they make can bring you to awareness. We have a lot of chickens and roosters here i tell you.
3. I am grateful for my life and for who i am. Really.
4. I am grateful for my brothers and sisters. I am also grateful for the Durian fruit dad bought. Oh the smell of it! Taste heavenly!

Speed Dating!

I've got a secret to tell. Here it is: I went speed dating two days before my birthday.wooo.God, if someone would know, especially my friends id be dead. Dead of teasing that is! haha. I cant believe i did it! But le me first explain why i went, because i would not do it for the life of me! I went because im gonna be 24 soon, and i want to do something wild, let's put that mildly- i want to do something memorable while im still 23, it was, in a weird way. And also because the proceeds of the said event is for the typhoon sendong victims, and also because my cousin's manager is it's organizer and i just cant say no to my cousin. I have to explain you know.


So what is Speed Dating? Speed dating based on wiki is a formalized matchmaking process or dating system whose purpose is to encourage people to meet a large number of new people. Its origins are credited to Rabbi Yaacov Deyo of Aish HaTorah, originally as a way to help Jewish singles meet and marry. Men and women are rotated to meet each other over a series of short "dates", usually lasting from 3 to 8 minutes depending on the organization running the event. At the end of each interval, the organizer rings a bell, clinks a glass, or blows a whistle to signal the participants to move on to the next date. At the end of the event participants submit to the organizers a list of who they would like to provide their contact information to. If there is a match, contact information is forwarded to both parties. Contact information cannot be traded during the initial meeting, in order to reduce pressure to accept or reject a suitor to his or her face. bwahaha on the last part!


Basically that's what happened, but Philippines being Philippines have a different version. It was supposed to be 12 dates in one night, 12 Men and 12 Women. The funny part was that the GIRLS OUTNUMBERED the BOYS in a ridiculous way. 16 GIRLS came that night and only 7 BOYS came. Seriously girls, are we that desperate? bwahhaha. Before the event started, small group of girls in different tables were busy chattering and doing some make up. I put some lipstick on just to feel and convince myself that i am a woman already, it's like a - i can do this gesture, don't be so pale! I was so nervous i could die! Especially when i saw the young men entering the room(They look good and presentable by the way, in which i was pleasantly surprised). My sister and cousin were laughing at me. They were like haven't you done this before? Went on a date? Okay, i look stupid, i am nervous, and i haven't went on a date in my 23 years of existence. I know, i know.  (Please don't get me started with my "i still have a lot of things to figure out and i don't want to explain my feelings"). 


Now, because we girls outnumbered the boys so much, what happened was, there were two girls in one table. We were only given four minutes to "date" the boy before the bell rings. Have you heard a trio date before? Nope? Well, basically that's what happened on my first date. The funny part was that the girl who's with me, we have the same name! Competition ba etitch. haha. To tell you the truth i scanned her. Just so i know i CAN and am worthy to be in the table with her. God, she's so tall and all. Insecurity attack! Rotation started, the boys come and go. All 7 of them. One word: AWKWARD! It was the most awkward experience i have ever been! I have to tell you. I know 4 minutes is so short, yet we run out of words. After introducing ourselves, every boy was like what should i say? Is there anything you want to know? What is your hobby? Do you like sports?(Yes, i have no sport) Then silence. If ever your going to a date like this, it helps that you have some ball pen or something to hold with your hands, you'll gonna need it when it starts getting boring. Boring and awkward and you want to laugh at the situation and you look at your girl partner and she smiles and agrees with you. Well, Sheena and i kind of developed an alliance. She was like giving me signals with her face expression like - oh he's good, approved! or OMG he sucks! he's cute. 
I learned one thing from that experience and that is, i like men who are honest and open. I discovered that most of the girls were college students and some of the boys too. Their teacher kind of forced them to join. haha. The Speed dating event made me realized that yes i am worthy of love and that i am enough. And that i am not that bad. I wanna cry. haha And that out of the 7 boys, the one with the laser eyes caught my attention. For some reason i can't look straight at him because if i did, those eyes would melt me. 

evidence!

P.S. I wanna say thank you to my new followers. Hey there Isadora, buzzlightyear and Rhea!